Yeah, I said it, it really isn’t. Just to clarify, I’m not referring to the oldest profession, I’m talking about meeting that special someone to go for coffee with, tell your secrets to, or maybe do something wonderfully naughty with (*wink*).
I’m sure a lot of you think there are boundless opportunities to meet that special someone on transit, and while there may be, it appears you men are striking out. Recently a couple of friends told me stories of wanna-be Romeos woefully missing their marks in their attempts to woo them. As such, I now feel it is incumbent upon me to give you boys some skoolin’ on the ins and outs of meeting people on transit, AKA Romantic Traffic (double bonus points if you recognise the Canadian music reference).
This subject will be a 2-part series covering the mating do’s and don’ts for both urban and suburban commuting. Now, let’s look at what happened to my friends….
Friend 1 was riding the Skytrain when a guy decided she was a tasty piece “sk-eye candy”. He then proceeded to flex his muscles and kiss his muscles while trying to make eye contact with her. Umm….NO!!!
Here’s the thing, while we appreciate a fine physique, peacocking will not win you points. If those muscles are that prominent, we’ll see them so no pointing to or kissing of them is necessary.
So what do you do? Simplicity is best and it all starts with one word – pay close attention (some of you may want to write this down). “Hello”. Did you get that? Yes, “hello” can work wonders, adding a smile to that works even better. I know, I know, you’re probably thinking “But Transit Gurrl, what do I do after that?”. How about complimenting her – perhaps she has a beautiful smile, or maybe her sweater brings out the blue in her eyes (yes, we appreciate it when you notice the colour of our eyes).
If she’s interested she’ll smile, probably giggle, and may even look shyly away while she thanks you. If she’s not, she may ignore you. If she’s a “b” with an itch, she may roll her eyes and look away (if that’s the case, be grateful you’ve learned the measure of her character early on).
For those of you commuting on Skytrain or on the city buses, time is of the essence – you need to strike while the iron is hot because you may only have one stop to seal the deal. Remember, faint heart never won fair maiden so suck up your courage and ask her out. Offer to buy her a coffee, see if she’d like to grab a smoothie and go for a walk along the seawall – whatever it is, just ask.
If you have a business card, great! Hand her your card while you ask her out. If you don’t have a card, write your name and number down for her (always carry a pen). What I don’t recommend is having cards printed for the sole purpose of picking up women because we’ll see right through that.
If she says she’s married, has a boyfriend, or is not interested, be gracious. Tell her that her man is a lucky guy and thank her for her time. Why bother? Well, if you’re cute or charming enough she may just have a friend. Remember, it’s all about the law of averages so keep trying and good luck!
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